This is so well done, Emma. I know you put a lot of time and work into this piece and I hope you're proud of it. This idea of not being able to find the words in your own therapy, and having parts that don't feel safe or good at sharing, as a therapist, is so important. Thank you for the courage to name this. I feel it too: I'm trained in IFS, and my inner narrative is that I should be killing it in my own work. I am not. Also as a human in a mixed neurotype partnership, I love the idea of reciprocity and non-pathology in differing styles. Brilliant work!
Thank you so much for commenting. It really means a lot to have the work seen in this way, especially knowing how much time it took to come together. This piece went through several rewrites over several months (perfectionist part at work).
What you name about being IFS-trained and still struggling in our own therapy feels so important to say out loud. I am really glad that resonated, and that the ideas around reciprocity and non-pathology in mixed neurotype relationships landed too.
I appreciate you taking the time to reflect so thoughtfully. It makes my writing feel worthwhile to see the impact. My writing is definitely my therapy!
Love it. Thanks Emma. As always speaks for many parts of me. I experience this to. I loved a lot of- and particularly “The more I listen inside, the more clearly I see the same patterns reflected outside.” Yes! Much appreciation 🙏
Emma, this piece is beautiful. I so appreciate your perspectives: vulnerability on how this feels from inside your system, your use of literature and your insight that parts also have a double empathy problem. I deeply appreciate you and your work. Thank you so much 🙏
Thank you Emma for investing your time and effort in synthesizing and sharing this multifaceted experience. It has been my experience as well. I especially appreciate this part of your closing sentiments, “Repair does not come from forcing understanding, but from staying present when understanding falters. From allowing communication to be difficult, and still choosing relationship.” This names what my entire system has yearned for my whole life. I agree with what you’ve shared, now that I’m learning through IFS training (as a clinician and client) how to do this for myself; bridging internal polarizations, healing shame and increasing self awareness and understanding, I now get to choose relationship between parts and Self as well as with others outside of myself. It’s been quite a gift. I look forward to reading more of your writings.
This is so well done, Emma. I know you put a lot of time and work into this piece and I hope you're proud of it. This idea of not being able to find the words in your own therapy, and having parts that don't feel safe or good at sharing, as a therapist, is so important. Thank you for the courage to name this. I feel it too: I'm trained in IFS, and my inner narrative is that I should be killing it in my own work. I am not. Also as a human in a mixed neurotype partnership, I love the idea of reciprocity and non-pathology in differing styles. Brilliant work!
Thank you so much for commenting. It really means a lot to have the work seen in this way, especially knowing how much time it took to come together. This piece went through several rewrites over several months (perfectionist part at work).
What you name about being IFS-trained and still struggling in our own therapy feels so important to say out loud. I am really glad that resonated, and that the ideas around reciprocity and non-pathology in mixed neurotype relationships landed too.
I appreciate you taking the time to reflect so thoughtfully. It makes my writing feel worthwhile to see the impact. My writing is definitely my therapy!
Love it. Thanks Emma. As always speaks for many parts of me. I experience this to. I loved a lot of- and particularly “The more I listen inside, the more clearly I see the same patterns reflected outside.” Yes! Much appreciation 🙏
Thanks so much for sharing your comment and for your support of my writing. Much appreciated.
Love this. Hadn’t heard of this research and makes so much sense. ❤️
Emma, this piece is beautiful. I so appreciate your perspectives: vulnerability on how this feels from inside your system, your use of literature and your insight that parts also have a double empathy problem. I deeply appreciate you and your work. Thank you so much 🙏
Thank you Emma for investing your time and effort in synthesizing and sharing this multifaceted experience. It has been my experience as well. I especially appreciate this part of your closing sentiments, “Repair does not come from forcing understanding, but from staying present when understanding falters. From allowing communication to be difficult, and still choosing relationship.” This names what my entire system has yearned for my whole life. I agree with what you’ve shared, now that I’m learning through IFS training (as a clinician and client) how to do this for myself; bridging internal polarizations, healing shame and increasing self awareness and understanding, I now get to choose relationship between parts and Self as well as with others outside of myself. It’s been quite a gift. I look forward to reading more of your writings.